Couples sessions are 75 minutes at $190 per session. Longer sessions are billed at a prorated fee. Individual one-hour sessions are $150. Couples need to commit to weekly sessions in the first two phases of therapy. Visa, MasterCard and Discover are accepted.
As is now the case with many accomplished therapists, I do not accept insurance. This offers several benefits to you: Your information is confidential and is never shared with a third-party provider. You do not have to be assigned a mental-health diagnosis, and we both avoid the cumbersome claims process. However, you can inquire with your health plan to determine whether you have out-of-network benefits; I will provide you with a SuperBill for you to use in filing your own claims. You can also receive statements for income-tax purposes.
Frequently Asked Questions
Question: Our marriage has been troubled for some time. We really feel it’s broken. Can we still be helped? Is there hope?
Couples typically don’t seek counseling early enough when problems begin to surface. In fact, research shows couples may wait as long as six to seven years before getting help, which often deepens wounds and unresolved concerns. What’s most important is a willingness to do the “work” in therapy, that is, to explore the differences that have come between you and to learn to change how you relate to each other. It’s important to commit to stay in the therapy process long enough to heal the past hurts, learn new ways of understanding each other’s needs and to practice the newly acquired skills. Typically, we start out with weekly visits, then move to every other week as the relationship becomes more stable, giving you time to work on what was accomplished at each session. Can every marriage be saved? The answer depends on many factors. Foremost, both partners must be committed to working toward the changes they desire.
Question: When will we begin to feel better, to argue less and to feel less stressed?
It’s natural to want quick results; however, again, progress depends on many factors and can’t be pre-determined. Some couples are able to understand the “negative cycle” and to begin feeling some relief from conflict in the first phase of counseling. It’s important to recognize that this negative cycle is the problem – not either of you. While the negative cycle of arguing or disagreement will occur again, couples learn to understand and exit the cycle so that issues can then be discussed productively.
Question: One of us has been unfaithful. Can we get past this hurt?
Many couples can work through the hurt and pain of infidelity. When both partners are willing, we can work toward healing the wounds and building a stronger connection. Yes, the process can be difficult and painful; however, there is an opportunity for the your relationship to grow stronger and build greater understanding and compassion in the process.
Question: I’m willing to come to counseling, but my partner is not. Is there any benefit?
While it’s ideal that both persons in the relationship come to therapy together, anyone can learn from the counseling experience. You can gain insight about your own interactions in the relationship and about your expectations and communication. Through therapy, you can learn how you may contribute to the conflicts and concerns and develop more effective ways of communicating. You’ll gain an understanding of your own behavior patterns and have the opportunity to learn to improve how you relate to others, including your partner.
Question: We are hoping to get married, but it’s been recommended we get counseling first because we argue and almost break up – and this seems to be happening more lately!
As couples agree to greater commitments to each other, it’s not unusual for conflict to arise. And, couples definitely should resolve issues before moving forward. By using counseling as an opportunity to create greater understanding and connection, the couple strengthens their understanding of how to resolve differences, how to have healthy conversations to resolve problems and how to truly listen and deeply understand their partner’s concerns.
Question: How long will we need to be in counseling?
Unfortunately, there is no way to pre-determine how many sessions a couple may need. Each couple is unique, and so is their path to a healthier relationship. Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy is considered a brief model; however, the number of sessions can vary. I make a sincere effort to help you feel relief from distress as early as possible in the therapy process, so that you can experience less arguing or pain. Additionally, I offer suggestions on how you can improve your understanding of the therapy process, which can result in fewer overall sessions.
Question: My (our) problems are so unusual, how could anyone understand?
I work to honor each person’s unique and special qualities. I bring to my work years of experience helping people tackle difficult challenges and to then move forward in positive ways. We spend time initially getting to know each other and feeling comfortable, building trust and acceptance, before we begin deeper work.
What’s most important is a willingness to do the “work” in therapy, that is, to explore the differences that have come between you and to learn to change how you relate to each other."