Your Couples Specialist:
Reconnecting Couples:
Most effective approach to recapture closeness & build a loving future together.

When love has disintegrated into arguing, distance, resentment, anger and frustration, couples often feel hopeless.

“When I want to talk and work things out, my partner just shuts down. And, then I can’t stop getting frustrated and angry, and he shuts down even more.”

“Now, even the smallest things can spark an argument. Even worse, nothing ever gets resolved.”

Couples Counseling“Intimacy is a big issue for us now. He feels rejected, but I it’s so hard for me to be close when we’re not getting along.”

“We don’t argue anymore. We’ve both just given up. We’re like roommates, but we used to be so close and so happy together.”

“We’re stuck. And we’re afraid we may end up divorcing. But we still love each other so much.”

Sound familiar?

You’re feeling afraid your relationship is headed down a path from which you can’t recover. You’ve been walking on eggshells with each other, and the love and closeness that brought you together seems lost. You’ve been trying to understand each other, yet even those discussions can get sidetracked into the pattern of arguing.

Let’s face it: Relationships can be the hardest thing we do. We are powerfully drawn to our partner, and our greatest need is to know we are special, to be reassured that we matter and that we can receive comfort and love from our partner.

When couples are not getting along, the emotions can feel powerful. As we are losing the most important connection in our lives, we become easily angry, upset or cold or distant. Deep down, however, we are in the turmoil of fear, sadness, loneliness and hopelessness.

To help couples in the most effective way, I use the method that is the most researched and has the highest success rate: the acclaimed Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy.

In this proven process, you’ll learn:

  • That neither partner is to blame. When distressed, couples fall into a “negative cycle” of arguing or distancing. The cycle is not intentional; however, it hijacks all the good parts of your relationship and replaces them with arguing (yes, even over the smallest things) and creates greater distance between you. Over time, it seems as if the negative cycle occurs almost automatically, even though you both are trying desperately to reconnect and communicate.
  • How to heal past wounds or hurts, poor communication, anger and infidelity. Often couples are concerned that they cannot move past the hurts that have occurred either during the negative cycle or because of one or both partners’ actions in the past. Recovering from hurts from the past is an important component of counseling.
  • How to turn to each other and talk in positive, loving ways about your most important concerns. You’ll learn how to exit the negative cycle when it occurs. Couples who have completed Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy often find that they continue to improve after therapy has ended.
Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy is effective because it is based on solid theory. The roadmap is more successful because it takes couples beyond simply learning to improve their communication.

Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy is effective because it is based on solid theory. The roadmap is more successful because it takes couples beyond simply learning to improve their communication. You’ll develop a new, loving path to a deeper, more fulfilling connection and build an emotionally safe and close relationship.

The journey we take together is not always smooth. The emotions that brought you to counseling may continue for some time until healing has mended old wounds. I am there as your support, to guide you through the challenging passages, to listen and understand your deepest concerns and to assist you both in learning to truly hear and acknowledge what is in each other’s hearts.

I believe strongly in the healing process and the positive outcomes that can be created. You can trust that:

  • I am a proponent of couples trying to work things out, despite the past wounds that may have occurred.
  • I don’t judge you or your situation. I do believe people are resilient and truely want to learn to reconnect and trust again.
  • I help you focus on your unique needs and to hear and understand each of you equally.

In learning to reconnect with each other, couples with children may find their relationship with their kids also improves. You’ve learned a new way to acknowledge each other’s needs and to listen with compassion – and couples can then use these new approaches to improve communication with their children (yes, even teens!).

Selecting a counselor can feel difficult, and research even shows that couples wait far too long (often as much as six to seven years) before seeking help. There is so much at stake, and the years of pain may seem to have taken their toll.

To help you feel more comfortable with your selection of a professional to walk this journey with you, I offer a no-cost phone consultation to help you see whether we’re a fit to work together. I look forward to talking with you. You can reach me directly at (602) 882-0533 or via email at

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(602) 882-0533

Phoenix & Scottsdale

Let’s face it: Relationships can be the hardest thing we do. We are powerfully drawn to our partner, and our greatest need is to know we are special, to be reassured that we matter and that we can receive comfort and love from our partner.