Couples
“We used to be so close, we always talked, we enjoyed each other’s company all the time.”
“Now, we’re walking on eggshells around each other.”
“The littlest thing sparks a huge argument.”
These are the sounds of disengagement – the fraying of relationships that once were based on trust, goodwill and love. Now, you’re feeling confused –“Why do we argue over and over about the same, unimportant things?”. Some couples feel hopeless: “No matter what, we can’t seem to stop arguing!” “Nothing ever gets resolved.”
The arguing pushes you further apart because you easily fall into a negative cycle of disagreement. And, you feel you can’t stop the arguing – or break the cycle – no matter what you try. Most couples fear losing each other because, at a time when they are truly wanting and needing to be close, they’re unintentionally pushing each other away.
In my practice, I use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). This well-researched, proven method has unique benefits:
- It’s a brief model, with some couples moving from distress to a greater understanding in 10-12 sessions for 70 to 75% of cases, sometimes less.
- There is no blame. We uncover a negative cycle of interaction between the partners that has been perpetuating the arguing and disconnection. In counseling you learn to quickly identify the cycle and then learn how to break free.
- It’s longer lasting. Research on this method shows that EFT can create improvement in couples in 90% of couples who come for counseling. And, some couples may continue to improve even after therapy has ended.
These positive results occur because EFT gets to the “heart” of what is causing conflict between you. Typically, there are important unmet needs that lie deeper than the subject matter of the argument. And, because the “work” is done at this important level, the results can be longer-lasting.
During the counseling process, you can learn to:
- Resolve long-standing issues in a cooperative, calm way
- End arguing more quickly and without hurting each other’s feelings
- Improve communication about big and small concerns
- Be an effective team in parenting
- Connect with each other with greater depth of understanding
- Feel close again, to spend healthy time together and to recover the feelings that brought you together
- Heal wounds of past hurts, including infidelity
You can learn to renew and strengthen your relationship. You can work toward falling in love again.
To learn more and make an appointment, contact Linda at (602) 882-0533.
Hope begins with just one phone call.