Study after study confirms what we may have thought all along: We have a strong, innate need to be close and connected to another person.
A secure connection to our beloved gives us confidence in the outside world, we can better handle life's inevitable challenges and we are more comfortable seeking our partner's support when needed. We are even more open to new experiences and we are more confident in ourselves.Read more
It's sad, but the fastest-growing trend in divorce is by people age 50 and older, hence the recent term "gray divorce."
While the overall US divorce rate has remained stable or even with a slight decline, the divorce rate for couples middle-aged and older has doubled in the past 20 years. In 1990, fewer than 1 in 10 people over 50 divorced. Today, one in four couples divorcing is age 50 or older.Read more
Sex is a vital component of a secure, healthy relationship. Intimacy provides important physical and emotional connection.
As a therapist who specializes in marriage and relationship counseling, I help my couples understand that secure, emotionally connected intimacy typically is most satisfying -- and there's research studies to back this up.
Unfortunately, when the relationship becomes strained and distressed with arguing and/or greater distancing, intimacy most often declines, sometimes becoming non-existent.Read more
It's impossible not to hurt our partner's feelings from time to time: Missteps and misunderstandings happen in all relationships -- Things we say, don't say; do, don't do; or forgetting something important to our partner. So, forgiveness is an essential part of a healthy relationship.Read more